Happiness

Some people say that happiness is just a useless expression of the human mind that I beg to differ with. Happiness can come from so many different events in your life that it can not be cornered into one human emotion. Some people would be happy to have the egg yoke not break for their morning breakfast which for other people can be a tragedy. Some people would look at love being a direct relationship to being happy but love has so many different perspectives to perceive it from that it could never be explained in a simple post like this one. Loving your mother and father is different from loving your children or the person you're are supposed to be sharing your life with.

You can be happy with a home improvement job that as a novice you managed to complete with some self satisfaction knowing that you had no clue what you were doing to begin with. That isn't happiness. You can be happy with a work project that you poured you heart into and know that you gave it your best. That isn't happiness. You can be happy with a child that made the honor role even though you know that they didn't have to work hard to get it because they are smart beyond their age. That will make you happy but it isn't true happiness.

Happiness in some peoples definition is pure adrenalin when everything is going your way and all of the barriers of other emotions are dropped and not considered. I tend to be very happy when I have a Peanut Butter Chocolate Chip Cookie from one particular establishment. But that isn't happiness. All of my other cares, fears, dislikes, hates, and darker thoughts are gone while I eat that cookie but it is not true happiness. The cookie is what makes me happy for the moment. Then I am sad when the cookie is gone. Sadness is a topic for another post.

Take it one step further when you have a relationship with someone, a person that you spend time with, love, argue with, discuss deep thoughts, and just have the sense that you are happy with that person. That person is the core of your happiness. When you see them, the muscles in your face create a smile which some people would say is the lazy way of greeting someone since it takes fewer muscles to smile than frown. That is the same happiness when you see your child, your mother, your father, sister and brother, etc, etc. Happiness is found in love and acceptance of another

Happiness is an individuals definition of their own life. It can come from the simple love of your children and the understanding that they will love you till the day you die. It can not be defined by what anyone else thinks or believes that should mean or demand that you be happy. Nobody can tell you what is your definition of happiness. The ground work for any personal happiness has to begin with every single person. It can not be rammed down your throat. Happiness can not be forced on you because someone else thinks that you should be happy.

The end result of happiness is defined by you. How you accept and deal with all of the actions and reactions in your life is where you may or may not find your happiness. It may have been my mother or someone else influential in my life that told me to never let anyone destroy what would make me happy in my life. Thinking about that thought, I am thankful for the many friends that I have and very thankful that my life is better spent seeking out happiness. If you find love in your life from another person that loves you for all your gifts and for who you are then that is one path to happiness. It will not be easy but it is the best path to follow if love is there.

Thus, I am happy with my life, where I am in it, and where my future will go. I am in new love and look forward to many years of this love. In that respect I know where my happiness is and I can embrace it and respect it. The rest of the crap that life throws our way is just details that need to be worked on to get through. That is the crap that you should never let keep you down and away from your own happiness.

At the end of your life, would you rather have regrets or thankful thoughts that you spent your life happily embracing love and living life to the fullest?

Comment if you like on how you define happiness. There is no wrong answer.

Papamoka