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Tuesday, May 22, 2007

Invasion of Families by the State

This is a personal issue that I think should be played out here. My girls are my world and my family is my world but when you insert one child with a serious mental health issue into the equation and ask the state for help it can turn your life up side down. Anything your child says is a weapon for the state social services to use against you and you are guilty till proven innocent no matter what you do. That is the case in our lives today.

Would you see a problem with a sixteen year old that is reasonably stable watching her little sisters for an hour or so till Mom gets home from work? Apparently, the Department of Mental Health in Mass A Two Sticks has a problem with that. They filed parental neglect charges along with more idiotic accusations from the mouth of just on child. Missing one phsyc appointment is neglect too! Not accepting as realistic as a parent of that child stating two days later that she took enough of her mental health medication that could have killed a cow is serious neglect because you did not take her to the Emergency room two days after the fact is a viable charge. The laundry list goes on. I apparently pick up a six pack and drink and drive with my four little ones in the car. NOT! This is what society has become when the state has a voice in raising the child. She can state any fact and we are guilty. We are dirty and we are criminals in the eyes of the state till proven innocent accordigng to the words from a child on more mind altering drugs than Timmothy Leary would have ever dreamed about being available.

A good friend of mine slapped me upside the head the other day and told me to get a lawyer. My wife and I don't really need one because we have done nothing wrong. We are lucky that we have nothing to hide. Having a child that is diagnosed Bi-Polar is a rough road to travel and it comes with some serious dilemas if you ask the state for help. From that point on they own you and you live under a microscope as parents. Any accusation from the troubled child triggers by law an investigation by other state services and you are guilty till proven innocent. Yup, toss out the Constitution and insert social services rules and state regulations.

There is no abuse of any kind here in this case, and yet I fully back social services in cases where children are truly abused. They don't make enough money in my opinion for the job that they have to do. Given our situation, if the sixteen year old does not like the decicions of her parents then she can say what ever she wants to make our lives hell. We get investigated because we refuse to allow a sixteen year old to date someone that is twenty three? That is how the system works if your kid is part of DMH in Mass! Tantrums gone extreme with teeth.

I do have a problem with them telling me that they will be in our lives for the next three months and visiting every single week till the investigation ends. Last time I checked this wasn't France and you are in prison till you pay the fine. This is what Mass A Two Sticks is like if you dare to beg the Department of Mental Health for help with a troubled teen. The troubled teen becomes the overlord of the family and you are the prisoner of the system forever. No matter how good of a parent you are they make you feel dirty and wondering what you ever did wrong. Guilty till proven innocent is all that it is.

I've pondered this for a while and I am fighting back fire with fire. If the state wants to come after me based on the laws of the land then those same laws work for me as well. I'm not going to let the railroad of state agencies rule my life or my other childrens lives. I have to fight for my family and if the one is lost to the state agencies and the laws they have to live by then so be it. There are still four sister in the family that are my daughters that need a voice of reason from a father that has done his best to date.

If you find yourself in this same situation and you have nothing to hide then I seriously beg you to contact your state representative or anyone that will listen in your state government. Do not let them tell you that you have no rights. Nobody can suspend the Constitution of our country and that is a fact.

Fight for what is right and you will never be wrong. Fight for your kids and you are a true parent. Even if one is over the edge you have to take a stand.

I'm planting my feet square and solid and I have contacted my State Representative and the Governors office. I will not be railroaded by them. Not going to happen in this lifetime!

Round one: State Representative is in our corner


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Blogger Louise said...

In reference to your comment "A good friend of mine slapped me upside the head the other day and told me to get a lawyer. My wife and I don't really need one because we have done nothing wrong." allow me to virtually slap you upside your head as well.


Take it from me and innocent victim of "the system" who has had NO CONTACT, NO VISITATION, with my children since 2002 and God knows I thought - "well, I'm innocent they cant find me guilty"-

WELL THEY DID and it took FIVE YEARS to have the case over turned!


11:58 AM  
Anonymous Marsha said...

Holy smokes, I can't believe what they are putting you through, that is rediculous. I would agree with louise though, get a lawyer before it is too late.

Also have you considered residential treatment for your kid? I know that you can find a bunch of programs for troubled teens at It might do you well just to get the kid out of the house and then let therapists see he/she for what they really are full time!

12:14 PM  
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